Thinking of all the experiences, all human beings must go
through, (sigh…)
These experiences are not what one would call good or
pleasant experiences in anyway, but somehow essential, according to “The Nature”
These experiences include things like:
·
- Accidents Of All Kinds
- Broken House and Family
- Getting Your House Robbed
- Cunning Enemies
- Getting Heart-Broken
- Fraudulent Activities Against You
- Mental Tension
- Emotional Blackmail
- And the list goes on…
Rarely, we avoid some of these experiences, but unluckily
suffer many of them as time goes by.
In this human living, Suffering plays such a vital role in
growing up.
One reason could be because, unlike happy moments which we
forget easily; inner distress which arises from having suffered the pain is
what comes to our remembrance the most.
Let’s give it a trial. Try to remember all the happy moments
of our life. We will find, we can only remember a handful of them, even though
we shared many happy moments with good people.
Now, let’s
think of all the sufferings we went through. Don’t we remember all of them with
details?
Like it
happened yesterday! (Sigh…)
Sigh-
because this is one of the negative capacities of our human brain. To - quickly
forget the good moments and happiness. But remember the sufferings for a long
time.
And, the
case is similar, when someone is good to us 100 times. We won’t see that or
remember it and be grateful. But let this same person commit one bad act
towards us, intentionally or unintentionally. And we will remember this bad
conduct for a long period of time; completely ignoring the 100 times of good
conduct.
Some argue
that “Impression” is an emotional element of life which has to be maintained
always. On this subject matter, my thinking and perceiving leads me to believe
that yes, the fault is in fact in our stars. It is us; who see, think, and act in
such a way.
Analyzing
and judging, waiting for someone to make mistakes; so that we can get a good
laugh about it. I am not talking about strangers only; we do this to even our
close people, our close friends. We judge them by the way we perceive them in
their everyday endeavors. But we do not know why they do, what they do. And
similarly, others are doing the same things to us.
So,
definitely the fault lies in our own self for being this way, for allowing our
minds to function in such a way. This way of behaving happens as a side effect
from the habit of gaining experience through pain and suffering.
When we keep
doing one thing or working in one fixed method, we train our minds to function
in this habit.
Suffering
from circumstances is not a bad thing. We do grow “a wise”, from our mistakes
and from analyzing our experiences.
One bad
effect of the above statement is that we also create the circumstance which
makes us suffer or others and this is not good, on our individual part.
We cannot
forget what our mind experiences, especially the bad experiences. But we can overpower
it by creating even larger number of good experiences.
Bad
experiences are like Black Magic. The result is a painful twist, but the lesson
learned from it, is profound.
So use your
experiences, all good and bad, to guide you towards your future and your future
situation/circumstances, but don’t hold on to any suffering forever. Give
others a chance, expect nothing from them. So, we won’t be disappointed. Let
them live their life and let’s not analyze their actions and behavior if no
one is being affected or hurt through their actions.
In my life,
I found out that all of them are just like us. Unknown to and still learning,
how to be social among others, while still trying to be the person, their inner
asks of them to be. In order to display each and everyone’s unique
individuality. It’s a complex feeling.
Let’s give
everyone a break. Let’s give ourselves a break. Let’s forgive others and before
that let’s forgive ourselves too, for all the mistakes we made and all the
sufferings we caused.
However, one
thing we should do is use caution. Give them a chance, but neither be fooled by
them.
Live and
Let Live…
- Thoughtmonger
